Our mothers mold us into the human beings we become. The perfect analogy is a bird leaving the nest. My mother has hand crafted me remote control wings that she would like to put on me as a bird. She has a remote control for these wings. She would like to use this control to direct my every move. As a bird I am being controlled but in nature if you force things they naturally oppose. So this very situation is causing me inner conflict and chaos in my life. A bird should leave the nest as an adult. And as loving as her intentions may be they are harmful. So in order to grow, I must set healthy boundaries and let her know these boundaries assertively and lovingly. I no longer need these beautiful hand crafted wings or the remote control that goes along with them. I must use my own wings that nature has provided me and learn my own lessons as they come along. I must learn how to fly and I must fall on my own. I don't need her help any longer she needs to focus on herself and learn her own life lessons. Letting go of this codependency as harsh as these words may sound. On the opposite spectrum some mothers never teach their children how to fly so they are left to fend for themselves. These particular cases are extremely sad and these children become products of their environment, whatever their environment may be good or bad. Do not judge people be kind to them because you never know the circumstances surrounding their upbringing. At the very core of our existence we are products of our upbringing and ultimately products of our environment. Surround yourself with situations and people who serve you and your life will ultimately serve you as well.
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